Praise for Acceptance

“Nietfeld’s gifts for capturing the fury of living at the mercy of bad circumstances, for critiquing the hero’s journey even while she tells it, make “Acceptance” a remarkable memoir.”
—New York Times Book Review

“A raw, insightful memoir—from childhood neglect to Harvard and Big Tech—tenderly baring the underbelly of what we call ‘success.’”
—People Magazine

“Acceptance is not a phoenix-rising-from-the-ashes tale. Instead, Nietfeld refuses silver linings and focuses on the toll of contorting oneself into a ‘perfect, deserving’ victim who was ‘hurt in just the right way.’ As such, Acceptance serves as a necessary corrective to what she notes is called ‘the gospel of grit’ in discussions of hardship in America, and an indictment of not just the systems that failed Nietfeld, but of a society that only wants to hear from its most vulnerable when they exhibit post-traumatic growth. . . . It’s a perspective that we can all learn from.”
—NPR.org

“In this gripping, inspiring, and darkly humorous memoir, Emi Nietfeld recounts a life that took her from homelessness and foster care to Harvard and Google, and still left her unsatisfied with the American dream.”
—Philadelphia Inquirer, “Best New Books of the Month”

“If Educated was a book that shook you, you need to pick up Acceptance by Emi Nietfeld... It’s an ideal book club read.”
—Iowa Public Radio, “Talk of Iowa's 2022 Holiday Book Guide for Adults”

"It is no simple story of transcendence, and instead complicates the narrative of pulling one’s self up by the bootstraps. It is page-turning, raw, and darkly funny.”
—Buzzfeed

“From the blind spots of the foster care system to the ivied walls of Harvard Yard, Acceptance offers an intimate and eye-opening look at the stark reality that belies the myth of meritocracy and the American Dream. In spare prose, Emi Nietfeld shows that, more than elite credentials and material wealth, transcending adversity comes down to the stories we choose to tell.”
—Qian Julie Wang, New York Times bestselling author of Beautiful Country

“In breaking from the Cinderella-story convention of social mobility memoirs, Acceptance achieves exceptional candor and beauty.”
—Cleveland Review Of Books

“Heart-pounding. . . . Nietfeld’s raw resilience and candor will keep readers enthralled until the very last page. This hits hard.”
—Publishers Weekly

“ACCEPTANCE is gripping, fascinating, funny and thought-provoking. . . . Nietfeld’s book and her life are extraordinary accomplishments, and she’s wonderful company.”
—Minneapolis StarTribune

“[Nietfeld’s] impressive debut is a radical probe into our society’s insistence on resiliency through unthinkable struggles, leading readers to reexamine long-held definitions of success.”
—Booklist

“A complex meditation on desperation, leveraging personal pain, and how the drive to achieve can be a gift and a pathology simultaneously. . . . A powerful memoir of overcoming adversity that also effectively interrogates the concept of meritocracy.”
—Kirkus (starred review)

“Acceptance is a gripping, urgent memoir in an era when social mobility feels beset from all sides. Nietfeld recasts the myth of resilience as a veil for society’s failure to empower vulnerable individuals.”
—Southern Review Of Books

“Gutting and alive, Acceptance is one of the best memoirs I’ve read this year. While everyone is dubious of her dream – her doctors, mother, and her foster parents – Nietfeld is determined to go to an Ivy League school and this is her heartbreaking, affirming, and remarkable story of trying to do so.”
—Amazon.com Editor Review

“[A] captivating page-turner. . . . She expertly describes the determined mindset with which she tackled seemingly unrealistic goals while also battling almost impossible setbacks; readers will find themselves rooting for Nietfeld. . . . A gripping firsthand account of a teenager navigating homelessness and the foster care system. It should appeal to many and may be of particular interest to school counselors, foster parents, psychologists, social workers, and others who work with children in difficult situations.”
—Library Journal

“The debut of a formidable talent. . . Acceptance feels like this generation’s Prozac Nation.”
— Bruce Feiler, New York Times bestselling author

“Wrenching, page-turning, and alive with dark humor, Acceptance illuminates our society’s obsession with precise forms of vulnerability—racialized, blameless, and impossible for any real child to deliver. Now in the first decade of her adulthood, Emi Nietfeld gives a sharp and ultimately triumphant report on a landscape that few teenagers survive with their voices intact. I read with my heart in my throat.”
—Lacy Crawford, author of Notes on a Silencing

“Foster care, psych wards, and antipsychotic medication all fail a heroine who slips through every crack. From the first, we know that Emi Nietfeld eventually finds her way through soul-crushing circumstances. But how? There is rowing, computer code, and the sacraments of Harvard. Then, there’s doing the detective work to confront your demons. Acceptance is an engrossing, affirming story of human resilience, with the pacing of a thriller.”
—Sherry Turkle, MIT professor, author of Reclaiming Conversation and The Empathy Diaries: A Memoir

“In a voice marked by both keen insight and emotional force, Nietfeld’s Acceptance traces the narrator’s hellbent journey up and out of her own origins, revealing in the process both the individual cost of chasing this particular American dream, and the tragic—almost pyrrhic—victory of ‘success.’ A powerful and compelling read.”
—Marya Hornbacher, New York Times bestselling author of Madness and Wasted

“The first word that comes to mind after reading "Acceptance" is: honesty. The trajectory of Emi Nietfeld's story is so remarkable, so raw, and so heartfelt. I was deeply moved by the book.”
—Adm. James G. Stavridis, USN (Retired)

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